In this entry of the Diary, Anais says, "to what extent we shape our destiny is a mystery. What we call our destiny is truly our character, and that character can be altered.The knowledge that we are responsible for our actions and attitudes does not need to be discouraging, because it also means we are free to change this destiny."
She's speaking of personal responsibility here. Parents are no longer the problem; sexual abuse is no longer the problem; the ex-husband is no longer the problem; middle age is no longer the problem. So I can stop blaming and take a look at myself instead. It doesn't matter what faults I can find in someone else; it matters what my responses are. It also means I can release the expectations of what I think my parents wanted for me or what my life would have been had I not married that particular man. This actually feels like freedom.
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