Anais Nin's psychoanalyst, Dr. Bogner, has insights on anger. "Dr. Bogner's concept is that if you are already angry you tune in on what feeds your anger and on the experience of other angry people. The anger is increased and multiplied. If you examine it at its source, the origin of it, you can deal with it alone, but not with a magnified anger out of one's control," Anais quotes the doctor.
"I spend a great deal of time trying to find the culprit, the origin of my angers. Dr. Bogner said it was because I cannot bear to see myself as a person capable of anger. I always tried to divert it, by understanding, by compassion, by justifying others' behavior. But repression of anger causes intensification of it," she continues.
"You pick up the waves you want to pick up. There is always hostility and cause for anger in the air. But like radio waves, you pick up what confirms you in your anger, what harmonizes with the image you wish to make," Dr. Bogner tells Anais.
Anais works to remove the power of what makes her angry. She knows that the anger must be dissolved because it is toxic and corrodes joy. How do you stop being angry? Even if you know the source of your anger, how do you stop thinking about it, feeding it? Is it simply a matter of replacing angry thoughts with happy thoughts whenever you realize what you are thinking about? You are what you think, so put good thoughts in your mind - is that it?
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